Hello far relatives
Can we just stop and first think about a kawaida (regular/normal/basic) or just plainly a human being. As humans we experience a lot (sorrow/grief/happiness/joy/success/failures/suffering/sadness etc), we socialize with so many people (customers/shopkeepers/teachers/friends/relatives/seniors/juniors/colleagues and so forth), we visit so many places (church, mosques, restaurants, bars, beach, farms, school, hospital, our houses and the like) and then we have that element of being who we are, when we are alone or maybe with that one ride or die. We have thoughts and the idea of what we want to be, how we want to be seen as and a very small percentage of us actually know who they are or are trying to really make sense of what we actually are on an individual level. Well for me that’s a kawaida human.
However today it’s about us socializing with people we don’t know, people we are likely to never meet in this lifetime and us feeding them with a glimpse idea of what we are, how we perceive ourselves or how we want them to think of us. I am talking about us and the social media
Social media has become one of the most fascinating human technology advancement and billions of people are using this technology to socialize,communicate, influence, learn and for other pleasures. Before we go deep, let us be frank here(that’s why I started with the introduction about a normal human) we have different personalities shaped by the levels of interaction between us and other humans based on how casual/official, their ranking in the society and also on our perception of us and them.
Based on my observation, on social media everyone creates the personality they want just anybody to see. The personality they are most comfortable with. The personality that is not insecure. The I don’t give a fuck personality. Or just a created personality of well, “this is me here”. There’s absolutely no one out their who is all doors open, welcoming everyone in to their lives.
On social media we are this huge photo album of “hey this is my perfect life”. “this is my favorite photo”. “this is my gorgeous outfit”. “hey I am always happy.” “I have it all figured out”. “hey I’m actually successful.” “hey I have been through shit but, I am okay now“. Most people without first considering, their true lifestyles or their true selves feel like failures/losers/poor and inadequate while peroozing through various accounts of created or the open personalities from others.
On social media it is visual, not real experience, it’s photographic and it is art. Basically it is how you want to judge, see or perceive. So you look at a photo of a 30 year old which took a few seconds to snap and maybe an extra minute to edit and caption and think you know all their 30years!!! And that’s how dumb we’ve reduced ourselves. You meet a ‘successful’ person who took years to reach where they are, and you want to be successful in a day. Damn, what a life!
As humans we face criticism. We are told we are not good enough, we are slow, we can’t make it, we can’t be better than the known legends, we are fat, we are too skinny and so forth. The mind never forgets. It is what you choose to believe that you become. And there my friends, even on your created or you open personality you will be criticised. That one most secure personality will still not be good enough for everyone. Or may be too good for someone, and they will not be comfortable with it. And on the mind of the spectator who can’t match up with the idea of how you can stand so tall or just be, they will be triggered to bullshit you. Their insecurities so well hidden, will just come out like vomit or diarrhea, without a speed governor. And my relatives, that is the real person, that is who they are, that is how they see life and it is not your problem at all.
It’s shocking that even in these perfect personalities, no matter how good you want to appear, how much idgf attitude you show, there is a bullying society. A society that won’t rest until they reduce you to their level of thinking, understanding, reasoning and perception. Until they drag you to join in their misery. Until they are certain you also can feel so damn insecure and inadequate like they are. Until you can’t be peaceful. You don’t have to join the misery club. Under no circumstances should you let the words of an insecure person, a person who only sees the negative/the bad reduce you to that level. For we all have felt hurt, destroyed, insecure and all that which steals our so much sought joy and it never felt good. By remembering that, smile over the bullshit, laugh at how ignorance really hurts and be the happy soul you have always wanted to be.
Summing up, I want you to always remember that social media is as vague as it is. Nobody has their whole book open. Everyone is showing the chapter they think they are writing good. The chapter they want you to know. The chapter they actually don’t care about much. If it is interesting or so boring it doesn’t really count on anything, they chose that for you. Real life is happening behind closed doors. Real life is happening so fast you cannot actually capture on the lens.
And as you might have noticed, based on my past posts, I don’t like taking sides, so to the suffering person, who for their own reasons,might knowingly or uknowingly inflict the venom to others, understand that when feelings of pain/jealousy/sadness/hate/insecurities/ are either expressed towards oneself or others, usually that never solves the underlying problem. You too can lbe happy. Those feelings can go. But you have to acknowledge they are there, take a stand to change one vice after the other and you will be liberated. You deserve a clear mind. You deserve happiness as well. And you can put that energy to bettering yourself. It does feel happy or something close to happiness when you mind your business.
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